We all face challenges and change in our relationships and lives. Regardless of age or gender, it’s part of what makes us human.
Sometimes we can resolve the issues we’re facing simply by talking them through with friends and family, or by taking some downtime, reflecting, and listening to our own inner guidance and wisdom.
But friends and family aren’t always able to help. We may not feel comfortable discussing our problems with them, or their biases may make it more difficult for us to figure out our own answers.
And for a great many of us, simply making time for, let alone truly listening to, our inner selves can seem a more daunting proposition than continuing to struggle with whatever issue we’re facing.
So you keep trying new things and keep muddling along …
But the pain doesn’t go away. In fact, it gets worse. And no matter what you do to alleviate it, nothing seems to help … at least not for long.
If you’re at the point where you’re considering professional counseling and psychotherapy because you feel as if you’ve tried just about everything else you can think of to overcome your anxiety and anguish and create the positive, lasting change you seek … I get it.
And I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone!
There is hope. Help is available. Relationships can be repaired and improved. You can work through and overcome anxiety, depression, and trauma. And you can reconnect with those you love most, heal, grow, and create the positive, lasting changes you desire and deserve.
While you may be hesitant about seeking counseling or psychotherapy, there’s really no reason not to get professional help …
If you need help losing weight or getting in shape, you hire a dietician or personal trainer. If you need financial help, you hire a financial planner. If you have a medical issue, you consult a physician.
Well, if you’re struggling with emotional or behavioral health issues, then it’s time to find a professional counselor or psychotherapist!
Yes, we all face challenges and stressors in life. But what most of us don’t realize is that the problems we struggle with are often caused, or exacerbated, by our own behaviors. And those unhelpful, maladaptive behaviors are often rooted in erroneous beliefs we hold about ourselves, our relationships with others, and the world around us.
The reason most of us aren’t consciously aware of these limiting, even detrimental, beliefs is that they’re typically formed in our earliest relationships with our parents, siblings, friends, and other family members.
And this is precisely why counseling and psychotherapy can be so vital to your healing and growth.
We’re all relational beings. Our perceptions, interpretations, beliefs, and behaviors are formed in our earliest years, and throughout our lives, in the relationships we have with others and with ourselves.
Well, just as any wounding or maladaptive behaviors are formed in the context of our relationships, healing and growth also need to take place in the context of our relationships.
And this is what counseling and psychotherapy are all about …
Growth occurs in connection. As Judith Jordan has said, “we grow, learn, expand, and gain a sense of meaning in relationship.”
In other words, the effectiveness of therapy is all about the healing relationship you and I create together.
Accordingly, my role as a therapist is to develop a healing connection with you, so you can reconnect with your Self, and then move forward to connect more fully with others.
This is why the focus of my work is on relationships. And this is why I approach my work from an integrative, attachment-focused, and psychodynamic perspective, incorporating evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques to help you recognize and transform old patterns and address the thoughts, feelings and behaviors you want to change.
Through the working relationship we’ll build together, you’ll learn to acknowledge and evaluate the beliefs (mental frames) you have about yourself, your relationships, and the world in general, so you can then work towards disconfirming and transforming any erroneous thoughts and beliefs you may have that are holding you back from achieving your goals.
In other words, we’re not going to spend a lot of time talking about “what” you’re doing “wrong.” Instead, we’ll look at “why” you’re doing what you’re doing, in order to make sure your “why” is in alignment with reality and whatever it is you’re trying to achieve, whether that’s to:
I’m also not one of those therapists who is just going to sit and listen to your problems …
Yes, I’ll listen non-judgmentally, attentively, and intentionally to everything you have to say. But I’m also interactive and I’ll provide guidance and direction.
I’m here to sit with you, be here for you, see you for who you are, and help you become who you want to be. I’m also here to “hold your hand” when you need it, as well as lead you by the hand in the direction you want to go.
When all is said and done, our relationships and connections with others and with ourselves are what give life meaning and make us happiest.
It’s through our connections that we move towards understanding, healing and growth.
This is why I’ve spent the better part of the past decade helping teens, adolescents, and adults figure out who they really are, reconnect with those they love, and discover their sense of purpose, meaning, fulfillment, and joy.
I feel privileged and blessed to do this work … to have developed open, trusting, meaningful relationships with those who matters most … and to have created a life I truly love. And I look forward to helping you do the same!
Please don’t hesitate to contact me today or call 415-990-9976 to learn more about the services I offer, ask any questions you have, and find out whether or not we’d be a good fit for working together. I look forward to connecting with you and helping in any way I can.
"As a child and adolescent psychiatrist, I have been fortunate to collaborate with Lindsay Durgan in the treatment of adolescents with mental health issues. She is a thoughtful and compassionate therapist who is extremely dedicated to the well-being of her clients."
"As a psychiatrist in San Francisco, I really enjoy collaborating with Lindsay on patient care. My patients love seeing her and clearly grow through their work with Lindsay. When I refer patients to her for individual or couples therapy, I can trust that they will be well looked after. She is a sharp and experienced clinician who brings compassion and caring to her work."